Wednesday, July 09, 2014

The Love of a Lifetime

It's no secret that I've written in my blog here about my relationship struggles.  I've had plenty of crushes and simple relationships, but nothing that was ever serious.   My last relationship was a two-year affair with a girl in which I had never even held her hand.  It didn't feel like that relationship could ever go anywhere other than just being a friendship.  Why I let it go that far is beyond me.  Part of me knew that it wasn't going to work out.  But I kept holding on hope for a break through.  Finally, she was the one that ended it.  During my adult years, I've had a lot of soul searching and figuring out to do when it came to how I wanted to pursue a relationship. Part of me began to wonder if I'd be single my whole life.  Now that I am in my 30's, I was beginning to think that was becoming more of a distinct possibility.  However, things are looking up in the relationship department.

I began talking with this girl last fall through match.com.  She seemed like a really great person with a lot going on in her life.  The only problem was that we lived about an hour in a half away.  But that was a pretty minor convenience.  Our conversations early on started out small - with simple messages asking how each other's days were going.  Things slowly progressed and we gradually got to know each other better.  It was around Christmas time where we met for the first time.  We had a nice lunch date together and I knew that there was the potential for something special to develop.  We continued texting each other, visiting each other and we began to get closer.

One thing that complicates matters a little bit is our distance apart.  Soon after we first started talking to each other, she took another job even further away from where she lived.  Instead of an hour in a half, it became a four hour drive.  But I considered it only a minor inconvenience.  She is originally from near where I live, so I had thought that someday she'd like to move back up here, if things happened to work out.  She is a school teacher and so she's out for summer break.  That doesn't mean she has the entire summer to herself, though. So luckily, she's staying with her parents for the summer and that gives us an even better chance to be together and get to know each other all the more.  So far, it's been a glorious summer to remember.  

I feel like I'm on cloud nine.  I can honestly say I've never been a in relationship that has made me feel so good.  She is fun to be with, she makes me laugh, and I love to listen to what she has to say.  There's a definite spark there and I see big potential with this one.  It's not like the other relationships I've been in where I kept wondering if it would really ever work out.  I mean, our relationship is still pretty new and we still have things we need to learn about each other.  But we're off to a terrific start.  This really could be the love of my lifetime.  Even though I had a late start in having a true relationship, it's better than it's late than never at all.  I have strong feelings for this girl and I think that we could have a wonderful life together, if things continue on the path that they're going.

UPDATE: I am pleased to say the girlfriend in this blog posting is now my wife!!!  Going on 5 years.  :)