First Encounter

I must say, even though there are times when I like being single and having independence, there are times that I wish for companionship. It's not my goal to remain dateless for the rest of my life and I've gone about dating people pretty slowly. The thought of dying alone is scary. But I want to find the right girl for me. I'm definitely not into looking at the first choice and being with that person the rest of my life. If I see that her and I don't click and have different personalities or social lives, then I'm not going to waste my time and try to make things work. I want someone who will understand who I am and why I do the things I do. That's not asking too much, is it?

I think I may have finally met someone that I just might be a match with. Her and I have been communicating through e-mails since about March and just last month, we started talking on the phone. At the time when we first started e-mailing each other, she lived roughly 30 miles away. True, 30 miles is not a long distance, but it was just a bit too far to see her. I just didn't think the travel was worth it. After awhile, we stopped e-mailing and I didn't think I'd be hearing from her again. But a few months later, she e-mails me back saying that she moved closer and if we wanted to meet, she'd be up for it. This piqued my interest immensely. She looked like a very pretty girl on her profile and I figured, what do I have to lose? So we continued e-mailing, and eventually we started calling each other (she called me first). The thing with on-line dating is whether you can actually trust the person enough to believe that they are telling you the truth and if the picture is "doctored up." You hear these horror stories from the news about internet encounters and it's something that nearly prevents you from trying it out. I've had a couple of experiences with people having an "old" picture or lying about their appearance and when I met them, I was turned off almost immediately. In fact, it happened about three or four weeks ago. But this recent case is a different story.

We scheduled to meet for the first time last Thursday at her place. I was looking forward to our encounter and meeting her. She was supposed to give me a call sometime after 3:30 PM once I had awoken from sleep, but I never got the call. So I called her just to see what was up and when she didn't answer, I left a message. Not long after, she called and explained that I couldn't come over because she was up all morning and was just now sleeping. I was a bit concerned and thought maybe I was scaring her away. But that wasn't the case at all. We rescheduled to have our first meeting to today. I don't care who it is, but I always feel a tad bit nervous whenever I'm about to meet someone in person for the first time, even though we may have e-mailed or talked on the telephone for months or even years for the matter. I'm just a nervous person in general. So yes, I was a bit nervous today, but it comes with the territory. I was also kind of afraid that I'd get lost finding her apartment, but I found it right away. I was doing great and then I knocked on her door...

Like I said earlier, you never know what you're gonna expect when you first officially meet someone for the first time. But when I saw her open the door, I was not disappointed. I'm always kind of shy at first and don't really say much, but once I get comfortable with someone, I can go on and on. And I'm also a good listener and act like I care what the other person was talking about. We talked for nearly three hours about a variety of different stuff and just trying to get to know each other. She made cookies for my visit so I was eating some of them along with some pop. I know it was just a first meeting, but I honestly could feel a connection there between us. And I don't want to jinx anything by saying that it's going to work because you just never know. It was the first meeting after all. However, I really want to see her again and get to know her better. She is super nice and overall sweet. If there's one relationship I'd really like to work, it's this one.

Even after I had left her place and headed back home, I felt completely at ease and in peace. She took every once of worry and anxiety I had out of my mind. She said that I can always call her and we can meet up and do something. That leads me to believe that she is interested in me too. Let's just say I feel real good about things and maybe, just maybe I have finally found my soul mate. I'm sure I'll be writing about it if things go one way or the other in the future. ;-)